How To Navigate The Holidays As a First-Time TBI Caregiver

The holidays are one of those magical times when everything is merry and bright but sometimes everything that’s merry and bright reminds us of everything that’s different. In between the parties and the lights and the gift giving, sometimes the memory of what was compared to the reality of what is, is a lot to bear. If you are a first-time caregiver of someone with a traumatic brain injury, or struggling with accepting your loved one’s condition this holiday season, we’ve compiled a list of reminders and tips to keep you going. It’s important to remember that today and every day, you are not alone.

Take Your Time
The holiday season has most people rushing around but just because everyone else is checking things off his or her to-do list, doesn’t mean you have to. Everyone should be encouraged to slow down during the holidays but especially if life is different for you this year, it’s important not to push yourself too hard. Taking your time will not only relieve stress but it’s secretly the key to enjoying all the holidays have to offer. You don’t have to go all out for presents, or food, or make it to every Christmas party. You are allowed to take the Christmas season at your own pace. Whatever feels good to you is the right way.

Have Conversations With Loved Ones
People may already be aware of your situation but having conversations before the holiday can set you up to really be present for the festivities. Setting boundaries with loved ones on what does and does not work for you is an excellent way to ensure your needs are being met. It’s easy for people to forget how you’re feeling or what you need when they get into the rush of Christmas. Having a pointed conversation with the people you love will remind them that your family’s needs have changed and you deserve to have those needs met. Everyone who loves you wants to know how you’re feeling so don’t be scared of these types of conversations. They are an opportunity for people to love you better which is ultimately the best gift of all.

Give Yourself Grace
The holiday season is hard! You are not the only one struggling to get things done or participate fully. Though your situation may be very different from those of your friends and family, everyone understands just how busy the holidays get so give yourself some grace. You are truly doing the best you can and you deserve to feel proud of your efforts. At the end of the day, it’s the time spent with loved ones that matters. It doesn’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to be perfect. Give yourself some grace when things aren’t quite what they used to be.

One Last Thought
Sometimes after a severe traumatic brain injury, old traditions can fade. If your family is experiencing a loss of a beloved tradition, consider this an invitation to try something new. You might surprise yourself with what you can create when you allow yourself to let go of what was and embrace the joy of something new.

From all of us at the Jimmy Simpson Foundation & Safehaven, we want to wish you a warm and Merry Christmas. TBI survivors and their loved ones are incredible people and we hope you allow yourself to celebrate and feel loved this holiday season.

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